Responsibility

When should a parent start teaching their child responsibility? Now.
18 mos old - 3 years old: turns lights off while being carried, carry in mail, get kid-friendly snack from the cupboard, pick up toys & clothes, put soiled clothes or diaper in hamper or trash, wash vegetables, tear lettuce, stir, help set the table, feed and water pets, take clothes out of the dryer
4-6 year olds: All of the above, plus - help find grocery items in the store, help fold towels and wash clothes, pour things, water plants, sort white clothes from dark clothes, help plant a garden, assist in meal planning, empty dishwasher and stack dishes on counter.
7-10 year olds: All of the above, plus - get herself up in the morning, help wash and vacuum car, wash dishes, help read recipes, run washing machine and dryer, change sheets on the bed, help with projects around the house.
11-15 year olds: All of the above, plus - cook meals, baby sit, buy groceries from list, wash windows, change light bulbs, make appointments, order out for family, mow lawn.
16-18 year olds: All of the above, plus - run errands, handle their own checking account, maintain car, take care of animals, help younger children with homework.
Chores provide children with purpose. Keep those little hands busy. Getting your kids involved in household tasks early provides for them a positive context that they have a role to play in contributing to the greater good of the family.

A Bit About Those Teenagers!!

Teenagers may be big, hairy, outspoken and vying for their independence. But, they still need us. They really aren't that different than we were at their age so think back to how you were in those past years...eek!! When your heart rate gets back to normal, remember some of your hair-raising escapades, read on...

Teens want parents to:

• UUnderstand their needs


• Improve communication


• To be fair, to show trust and to be respectful


• They want caring, honest parents


• Help in developing responsibility


• Have a sense of humour


• Time together


• Be good role models
  
  Teens need you in the driver's seat, perhaps not being the boss, but definitely guiding them along the way. Teens need a safe environment to help them make that step into adulthood.
  
  Teens are ready to have some input into rules and to take part in family decisions, for example: curfews, driving, allowances, chores and computers.



• Freedom means responsibility


• Get ready because teens like to negotiate. Be clear on where you stand so you have a good starting point. Kids want security, support and guidance and we can always give them that.


• And when their friends aren't around, they may even like a warm hug!